Nice For What: An Ode To Self Care
Kind (adj) of a good or benevolent nature or disposition, as a person:
Nice (adj) pleasing; agreeable; delightful:
Mean (adj) offensive, selfish, or unaccommodating; nasty; malicious: a mean remark;
I have often been told that I am a mean person. My rebuttal has always been no, I’m a real person and I don’t sugar coat anything. To me, a mean person does things with the intent to hurt someone else. I have never been that person, I just often say how I feel and that isn’t always pleasing to the ear. Now I’m all for growth and yes I don’t have to say everything that comes to mind out loud or even need to add my 2 cents. But I will never tolerate anyone calling me mean.
Drake recently dropped his single Nice For What. Of course, I was side-eyeing all my friends bopping to the song because they have the nerve to say I’m mean but it’s cool when Drake agrees. I recently had a conversation with my mom where she explained I am not a mean person nor am I a nice person but I’m very much a kind person. A kind person does things from the heart whereas a nice person does things to please people even if it’s not something they want to do. My mom explaining that, made me feel so much better because like I said I don’t think I am a mean person.
Now to the title at hand with me being a kind person and not always looking to please others means I choose to please myself instead. I’m not afraid to say NO to the things I don’t want to do. Now don’t get me wrong I do understand that sometimes we have to tough it out through the things that we don’t like but we don’t have to do it all the time. Saying NO to some things in our control is a key part of self-care. If not ourselves, we all know someone who gives and gives until they are completely burnt out and they have nothing left to give back to themselves. Or you feel like you give so much to others and people rarely give you an ounce of that in return. We have to be able to say NO just to be able to catch our breath some days or, just to not have to think about what needs to come next and, be able to be in the moment.
I encourage you to say NO every once in awhile and say YES to yourself. Self-care has become a “trend” and people fail to understand what it truly means and it takes away from the people who live this as a lifestyle. It’s not always buying those shoes you want but, It just could be sleeping in, or simply not doing anything at all and actually not feeling bad for it. You can’t be the best version of yourself to the people in your life if you don’t take care of you first. Anytime you show up for anyone else it shouldn’t feel like another thing in the long list of things you have to do it should be something that you don’t mind doing. Drake always says is best “ you gotta be nice for what”